Are you someone’s security blanket???

The old saying is winter time is boo loving time and summer time Is play time; I wonder if the person on the opposite side understands they are merely being held on to by someone in need of security? 


 Being someone’s security blanket is not saying you are any less of a person, heck half of the people that are the security don’t even know they are until after the situation has passed.  Have you ever wondered why you only hear from him/her in between their break-ups?  Or have you ever felt like you were being strung along as if the person you give your all to always seem to say just the right words to keep you, but just never seems to be “ready” to commit?  It’s because they are holding onto you as their security blanket.  A security blanket gives you comfort, it brings warmth to the situation and it never leaves you lonely.  Some of us are right now in relationships that have no purpose at all; it has no real ending because you are allowing yourself or submitting to the needs and wants of another without the assurance that they will do the same.  Marriages tend to have the most security blankets.  You may have a couple that are so used to each other’s routine or financial state that they hold on by a thin thread with fear of losing that security.  Fear of having to be alone and not have a cushion to fall back on.  Men also experience this just as well as women.  You could have a woman that you love with all your heart and she may love you true to heart; but if you find yourself settling into what she considers her “comfort zone” and never taking it to the next level because she gives you excuses like “We’re not ready yet” or “We have time, let’s wait a while”, 10 chances to 1, you are her security blanket.  Not saying it in a bad way or pulling anyone’s cards but in actuality how long should you put your happiness on hold for the comfort of another?  Another source of a security blanket are our children.  We get so used to being that provider and always having them there at our convenience that when it’s time to let them go into the world we make excuses for them to stay because we don’t know how to let them go.  We hold on to the security we felt from them being around and we cling to it; which can also prolong their lives.  Me personally have found myself on both sides of the bed.  After a break-up I became the “go to” person when it was convenient or what some may call the “back-up plan”, which basically showed I was being used as a security blanket for the other person.  Then on the opposite side I had a man willing and ready to spend his life with me and I held him close to me for a security blanket until I was sure I was ready to place him in the same position as he placed me in his life.  Now some people are totally aware of their role and they are confident in this and that’s all fine and dandy; but sometimes you have to look at the situation from the other persons stand point and ask yourself, “Are you this person’s security blanket?”.-Bianca Lynnette

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About "Love Yourself First Everyday!"

BiancaLynnette is a God fearing wife, mother of 5, Motivational Lyfe Coach & writer pushing and inspiring others to believe in themselves. L.Y.F.E. stands for Love Yourself First Everyday; this site was created to remind all of the beautiful people in the world of how important it Is to love YOU! As a busy mom of 5 I know how easy it is to get lost in the shuffle of life and how vital it is to encourage yourself! So I welcome you to join my everyday journey of LYFE! Where Loving yourself first is not just a statement, it's a LYFESTYLE!
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3 Responses to Are you someone’s security blanket???

  1. Jewel Hazelton says:

    What if you are someone’s security blanket? What do you do to change that?

  2. maesie says:

    I know i am a security blanket for somone & i love him do we Stop being that for somone&does the “needy one” ever realize your the best thing for them?

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